Saturday, April 22, 2017

The day after.

Sadly, Mom passed away a few hours after I made my last post.
Friday, around 6:30 am.

It was very peaceful. Family was all around.

I want to post every detail about how that went.
It might be helpful for people to know about end-of-life care...

But including every detail also makes it too impersonal.
I decided I will save the details for my private journal.

This morning was spent finalizing the funeral services and making calls.
Mom knew a lot of people, including several priests, a florist, and the director of the funeral home.
The choir that I joined for a little while last year, will be doing the music.

Dad had visited the funeral home last week to have everything ready.
They bought their plots 10 years ago, including the services.

Today we went to bring her clothes and sign some papers.
I would have been happy with any casket, but found out that Dad had picked out the most beautiful one.

It has the shiniest wood.

On the corners are a representation of Michelangelo's Pieta, and all the handles have the Last Supper.

(it felt too weird to show the picture of the opened casket.)

The design is very appropriate for a deeply religious person like Mom.
Now I wonder if the clothes and jewelry we picked out for her to wear will be nice enough!

It will be a very special service.

The viewing is at Brown Colonial Mortuary in Santa Ana on Wednesday evening.
The funeral Mass will be Thursday at 11:30 am.
The burial will be at Good Shepherd Cemetery in HB.
Afterward we will have a gathering at the church hall.

I spent the rest of today scanning in photos from at least twenty photo albums.
I am determined to make an epic photo slideshow memorial.

My sister stayed in town and she has been a great help.

(She is much better at distinguishing my mom from my aunt when they were little.)

Unfortunately I took at least two of my favorite photos out of the albums to scan them in, to make a collage last year, and I misplaced them!
And if I scanned them in, which I don't recall doing, they are on the hard drive that crashed.

If only I could remember where I put that folder!
My sister said, "Maybe Mom didn't want those pictures included," so I will tell myself that.

Tomorrow I will be editing the photos I scanned in. At least 200.,,


  1. Oh Julie, I am so sorry for your loss. You have been such a good and caring daughter. I believe your Mom is with you now, guiding you and your Dad through each step as you deal with a terrific loss and adjustment. So glad you family is together now. Sending virtual hug but real love. Take good care.♥

  2. Thanks Jacki, even though I haven't replied a lot, I know you have been so supportive!